Yesterday, it was Father’s Day and being able to spend some time as a family is always a good thing. I got to spend the afternoon with 3 wonderful fathers; my dad, my husband, and my brother. It is really quite fun to watch my brother with his three little ones. Fun in the sense that it’s a place that I’ve been already, and to see how he and his wife are traversing those waters is kind of neat. To see things from a different vantage point, to be able to give advice when it is asked for, to be able to help when needed. Yeah its fun. My brother, Nolan and his wife, Pam, have three children aged 4, 2, and 3 months; whereas my husband & I have 3 teenagers aged 16, 14, & 12. We are in totally different seasons of parenting, yet we are able to speak into each other’s parenting and raising of our children. That’s kind of cool.
Parenting, at its core, seems to come down to words and actions. They have to line up or there will be mass confusion and rebellion in our homes. The same is true in any other area of our life; our words have to line up with our actions. We need to first let our ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and our ‘No,’ ‘No.’ (Matt 5:37). I guess, parenting, in essence, is a huge lesson in integrity. How we model that, will affect our children, and our children’s children, and so on down the generations.
The dictionary states that integrity is “adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.” That’s huge. Integrity speaks straight to the very core of who we are. The bible also has a lot to say on the subject; ” The integrity of the upright will guide them, But the perversity of the unfaithful will destroy them” (Prov 11:3), “The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him.” (Prov 20:7). There’s plenty more but then this whole post would be scripture. I would suggest going to biblegateway.com and do a search on the word yourself and see what the world’s best seller, the Bible, has to say on the subject…go ahead I dare you.
“A life lived with integrity – even if it lacks the trappings of fame and fortune is a shinning star in whose light others may follow in the years to come.”
Integrity is a powerful thing to have, yet it is also fragile. It only takes a lie to see it shattered at our feet. So the questions come…Are we modeling it to our children? Are we teaching it to them? What does that look like? Do the people around us see us as examples of it?